Marriage In The Black Community

I was scrolling through my phone and paused for a moment when I saw a beautiful picture of my parents. For their last wedding anniversary, I organized a photo shoot with a local photographer. The essence of these photos highlighted a lifetime of love, but more so, a lifetime of challenges, trials, victories, failures, argument, prayer, laughter, compassion, children, and grandchildren. A lifetime of marriage!

Research conducted at Yale University states that 42% of Black women will marry,  58% of black women will not wed. An astonishing amount of black women will never experience the beauty of marriage. I was so prepared to make a case for myself and female brown and black girls. The truth is, we have heard this message so loud and clear that it leaves us at times helpless in our pursuits of love and marriage.

The notion that we are not worthy of love. With the constant reminder that black men are incarcerated at higher rates than white. The facts on socioeconomic status and education. We’ve heard it many times. I wanted to reiterate these points and share that I was no longer apart of the statistics. But, I uncovered greater insight and an even more powerful message to share.

Through researching I’ve learned that black women do marry, that educated black women don’t always have it harder, that black men earn enough to care for a family and that a black man will marry me. I referenced this article posted on Thoughtco. An insightful article written by Nadra Kareem Nittle entitled Black Marriages: Four Myths Busted by Facts. The author explores statistics and shares a different perspective on black marriages. A healthy, hopeful perspective.

I really appreciated this article, as it shifted my perspective on this issue. We needed this article!

I join with ThoughtCo. to emphasize and empower women, especially black women, to not give up on love. Regardless of age, education, and money, know that whatever you desire can be achieved. Know that love will find you in the most unexpected places. Know that the statistics exist, but you are not the statistics. Also, know that you can choose a life without marriage and still be fulfilled.

Lets us share these statistics instead;

“88% of black men are married to black women.”

“Among Black women, 70% of college graduates are married by 40, whereas only about 60 percent of Black high school graduates are married by that age,” Tara Parker-Pope of the New York Times reported.

ThoughtCo.

“For heterosexual Black women in search of marriage, however, the forecast is not nearly as gloomy as has been reported.”

Thoughtco.

Sincerely,

A Black Woman

The walk isn’t always easy, but the walk is worth it, if we do it together!

Additional Articles to Read

  1. The Root
  2. New York Times

4 Comments

  1. Thank you for this post .Its not all rosy and smooth in marriages but the fulfillment and joy comes from knowing that couples do it through love and forgiveness and determination to make it a success hence leaving a example and a life time of challenges and experiences during conversations for there kids to look back on .

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